Daraius’ Diary: Can I Accomplish Everything Without Hurrying?

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Daraius:  We’ve got a great team at Million Mile Secrets.  But I miss writing as much as I did in the old days!  So here I am writing about stuff that I really care about (and which isn’t all miles-and-points related).

Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. – Lao Tzu

I was late for my yoga class, the parking lot was full, and I was on my phone as I walked hurriedly past this sign.

Can I Accomplish Everything Without Hurrying

Mother Nature Versus Father Time

I scoffed as I read it!

Ever since I was a child, I’ve always liked rushing.  I know what I want, and I’m going after it.  Why waste time, right?  If I don’t rush, how will things get done?

Not many accuse me of patience. 😉

Slowing Down

And yet, over the last few years, I’ve enjoyed slowing down.  I suspect this is a result of meditating and being more mindful and self-connected.

I’ve focused on doing less each day.  I don’t take my cell phone in my bedroom.  And I often will leave my cell phone in the car when I’m out with friends or attending a class so that I’m not distracted.

And I even went a few weekends without checking my computer and email!

I Find it Hard!

But slowing down doesn’t come naturally to me.  I want to get things done quickly and efficiently!

I want to re-design the blog, but I’m frustrated that it will take ~6 months.  I have a new idea, and I want it implemented immediately.  I want to read a book quickly and efficiently.

And I like driving fast!

Everything Is Accomplished

I felt calmer and more relaxed after my yoga class, and I pondered over that Daoist quote for the next few days.

Can I Accomplish Everything Without Hurrying

Observing Nature Helps Me Feel More in the Present Moment.  It’s an Escape From the Rush of Daily Life.  Or Is Much of My Daily Life an Escape From Living in the Moment?

Was it like a river, where the water twists and turns and eventually makes it peacefully to the sea?  Not hurrying, not forcing itself to flow faster, just peacefully being?

Or is it like nature where everything that needs to happen, just happens?  The sun shines, the rain falls, the wind blows, and the flowers bloom?  There’s no rushing to put together a powerpoint presentation!

Or is it the realization that I cause suffering for myself when I want life to unfold exactly how I want it to unfold.  And not any differently?

I’m a Recovering Control Freak

Nature doesn’t tie its self-esteem to outcomes.  I’ve learned that trying to control exact outcomes makes it very difficult to feel good about myself.

But putting forth my best effort while adjusting and learning is something I CAN totally control.  So I can feel great about myself for my process and progress.

I might not get exactly what I want when I want.  And, yet, I find myself grateful for everything that has come my way!

Bottom Line

Life is unfolding right NOW, and not in the past or in the future.  So when I think of the future and all the things I want to get done, I am not letting it unfold as it is meant to be.

And, yet, there is so much I want to get done!

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12 responses to “Daraius’ Diary: Can I Accomplish Everything Without Hurrying?

  1. Enjoy reading it!

  2. I am a control freak too. Everything always has to be perfect and done my way. I will try to hurry less today and live in the moment! Thanks for the words of wisdom, Daraius.

  3. I relate completely. You are not alone my friend!

  4. You’re wonderful, Daraius. And to put down your walls to write about your imperfection-ism is strong! Keep it up, bro.

  5. really like this article, great reminder! Thanks!

  6. Thank you so much for this post! “All in the fullness of time” is a phrase that helps me with impatience. And of course from Mick Jagger “You don’the always get what you want… you get what you need”. Looks like you are using wonderful ancient tools: nature, meditation, yoga… maybe there are a few retreats out there that use points? Namaste

  7. Truly, I could have written this!

  8. Only the little people must hurry .

  9. Definitely you are not alone, you can’t be alone because we are influenced by current fast paced world around us. Your recent efforts and experiences are really encouraging, thanks for sharing as always! God bless!

  10. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I don’t always write but wanted to share some comments. Practicing mindfulness has wonderfully cascaded to so many areas of my life. Like you, I was a control freak and find myself sometimes slipping into that well-worn cloak but fortunately it feels heavier and more cumbersome every time.
    Peace and the very best wishes to you Daraius (lovely name and you are indeed rich in thought).

  11. “Only the little people must hurry ”
    To explain further : people whose life is out of control , people who are disorganized , those who can’t choose so they want everything ,those who think the wrong things are important , those are the people who must hurry .
    Sometimes when I want something badly , like a drink of water or bite of food , I’ll wait one more minute to feel less driven . Of course I realize I’m an odd one in a way . Growing up I was influenced by elders from bygone times . It was considered shameful to want something too much . It was considered cause for embarrassment to be too anxious or in too much of a hurry .
    I know well that sometimes you’ve got to get a move on or you’ll miss the boat . The rest of the time let’s proceed in a dignified manner .